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[geniusdreams]

OK... I wrote something to someone else (Dragon I told you about her)... but actually I think I should have written it here too.

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You can think of relationships as like an "Energy tube", to and from another person.

In a good relationship, both people gain from the relationship, usually by about the same amount...

Anyhow... what happens is that some people try to fake a relationship, by not being there anymore, ignoring the other person, except to make excuses about why they aren't there anymore.

They say "oh sorry I didn't call you, my phone was broken", or some other retarded excuse, except it never adds up, and the excuses are dumb.

What they are trying to do, is keep you sending energy to them. This way, they don't send you energy, but you do send THEM energy.

How does this help them? Well... because they aren't sending much energy to you, they have extra energy saved up, so they can use that extra energy to create a new relationship to someone else!! Often using your energy to do it.

Think of it like 3 people in a line... the one in the middle gets energy from the person on the left and on the right, but only sends energy to the person on the left. So they get more energy...

But the person who isn't getting energy back, is now confused and lonely. They are sending energy out, but getting nothing back. And because they don't have energy anymore, they can't make new relationships! There's no energy left to make them.

If that person manipulating is really horrible, they can repeat this process over and over for each person. Manipulating them into at first being a good friend, then dropping them as a friend, and tricking them into still sending energy. So they can have MANY people sending them energy!

You can think of it like a bunch of tubes all pointing towards one person, from many people. All sending energy.

This makes the one in the middle "seem" very important.... they might have this "glow"... about them, a sort of perverse glow, because you feel something is wrong. But actually they will often seem very superficial too. The things they talk about or think about.

The "glow" they get is just from all those people sending them energy! Its not even anything meaningful, and thats why it feels perverse, because the victims were fooled into sending their energy to someone who doesn't really care!

Its usually females who are gaining the energy... who are at the center. Because females are always manipulating males to drain their energy. Although some dumbass male "players" (guys who like to fool loads of stupid women to fall in love with them to have sex with them) are able to do it back to women as well...

It doesn't have to be male to female... or female to male. It is quite often girls draining each other's energy, or boys draining boys... But its more usually the females who win from this.

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Anyhow... as you probably are thinking... it never works out.

What happens is the people who are sending energy because they were manipulated... they become sad. And so they only have sad energy to send. This comes into the life of the person doing the manipulation, and it creates sadness in their own life. Many things go wrong for them. They may still have this "glow", but they feel incapable of sorting out issues in their life, like they are not in control. And of course they aren't, they have other people's energy and so the others are really in control. Its a sadness they can't escape from, no matter how many people think they are so amazing.

And because they spent so long manipulating people, they can't build meaningful relationships. They become empty inside, because they don't know how to create positive healthy energy.

And worst of all... eventually some people like me end of thinking "you know what? Fuck this bitch. I gave her everything and she only played me for a damn fool. She never cared about me or at least she's stopped now and is lying to me."

At this point, the victim regains control over their life! They stop sending energy to that manipulative person.... they stop thinking of them as a friend. Then their energy is saved up! So... it is now free to float around... and just magically, pull the right people into their lives And so a few months or weeks after thinking this thought, the right person will arrive.

But also, because the manipulative person isn't getting energy anymore, they start to lose their "glow" People around them who were fooled into seeing as them as important and special, start to wake up. And think "hey, what did this stupid bitch ever do that was so important again? Everything I got from her was useless and fake and did me no damn good!"

And so they leave her too. And so the one who used to make other people alone... now becomes alone. With no glow to make her look special, only empty on the inside, and having made enemies of the people that used to care for her.

[Dragondragon]

Lol. My sister did that to my father...

During the fights between my mom and pop, very time my sister needed something from him she was temporarily pretending like she was on his side (and she wasn't very good at it, too XD, she finally gave up and said that she wasn't on either side...).

But when he gave her that specific thing she wanted, she went back attacking him and making lying on him (like calling him evil indirectly), so she can make my mom happy.

This went for freaking years, man. I mean..taking energy from your own parent? that can last for years until they find out what's wrong...the last thing they'll accuse is their own child..so it can be years of manipulation.

I didn't realize what it was when I was a child, and how someone can attack and lie about a person when just days ago she said he was good and cool. ><


So my father ended up being most of his time in his room, smoking. It was certain that he was very low on Energy in that times.

Or course, that's when my mother's turn kicks in and she was lying about how he's lonely because he's evil, or as she said it "have personal problems". And my sister BACKED UP HER AGAIN. Even while STILL requesting from my father to do stuff from her, and constantly saying that he's not evil only when she needed something..And he actually believed her in that times..he was like "ohh, maybe she saw that I'm not that bad and we can be friends!"

Only to find out that she lied on him again and went back attacking him with my mom as soon as she didn't need anything from him.


Lucky him, he finally divorced from my mother and went to a new house with my brother!

He has quite few friends now and I hope he'll find more in the future. He doesn't smoke as much anymore and even went back on dating! he told me that this time he'll check on what he takes closely so he won't make that mistake again.

He seems generally much more happy right now. Without being constantly attacked and lied about.


The worst is that they kept accusing him for not having friends because he's evil, and when he finally stopped listening to them, he FOUND SOME.


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...He still drives my sister around to places..and you won't believe that, it STILL going on in the lower levels, the whole manipulation thing. She's STILL using him. It's obvious..

Only this time she can't bear to call him evil. She just "Doesn't want to talk about it". Lol.

Only this time he knows not to take her seriously because he knows she's using him. He knows she's fake and sad. And he still does some of the things she says only because she's his family, and maybe that would stop too, eventually.

So he doesn't take a single word she says..even when she needs something and says nice things... because he knows it's fake.

[geniusdreams]

Hi Dragon,

thats a sad story... well I'm glad you told me...

Anyhow... its not the same as what I meant. That story had a lot of cruelty or sadism in it...

I meant someone who used to be a friend, and then just "disappears", and only gives lies about why they have gone. Blaming it on excuses like "I had to have a shower", or "I was ill", or "I lost my phone", or all sorts of stupid excuses...